Life and its lessons (2)
Life and its lessons (2)
People: You will meet different people in different stages of your life. I am thankful for people I meet, and I am learning to be more thankful for the ones that have tested me. It’s easy to be a nice, patient and controlled person when people are good to you but being that same person when it’s the opposite is the real test. My lesson is that people change through time or the idea/image of what you had of that person changes through time - the same way I am changing. I have learnt not to assume; people have different priorities, principles, views, experience and plans. Learn to see the person for who they are – accept it and make your decisions accordingly. Every person that crosses your path is here to teach a particular lesson - don’t get lost but learn to observe - what is this moment/experience teaching me about myself and other people or situations.
Time: I used to see a quote that says time heals everything and, in a sense, it’s true - countries have moved from devastation to be more stronger countries, people have become legends after a challenging past. My lesson on time is - the experience which time is meant to heal does not change; through time you gain better perspective, see things from a bigger lens and become more resilient in dealing with situations. Healing hence for me does not only include that I learn to letting go but as a means of growth. Time - teaches, explores, reveals, destroys, recreates and builds. You can only trace backwards so have a strong belief that the path you are stepping and moving on is the right one – bi ithnillah.
Disappointments: Recently I was watching a video where one man asked another “Don’t you feel bad when you have disappointed yourself?” it led me to reflect on my own behavior. I am a person that can make a promise to a person and it will nag me till I finish and even do more. On the contrary for moi I thought of the many promises-broken, yes and no unsaid, plans-undone and frankly it made me break a little. Why is it easy to disappoint oneself and hard to disappoint others? – My reflections are still loading………….
Being Thankful: Working in the field I am in, I see statistics all around me - 1 in every 1,000, 10% of the population have, etc. Reflecting through I have seen that I am in the % of the “positive have’s” in most areas – in terms of the experiences and opportunities. Peoples stories and experiences have shown me that I have so much to be thankful for – from small (for some which are huge) to bigger issues. Allhamdullilah – I thank Allah for the countless blessings among which are my upbringing, experiences and for giving me the ability to think the way I do. My lesson is not to underestimate or judge; people are going through different episodes and chapters in life. The more I think I know, the more I know I don’t know and a constant reminder for me to stay humble – Subhan Allah.
Inspirations: This week got a FB post reminder from a year back which was part of an article I read. This is a perfect contribution to my inspirations section "Call me crazy, but I believe that changing and improving your life requires destroying a part of yourself and replacing it with a newer, better part of yourself. It is therefore, by definition, a painful process full of resistance and anxiety. You can’t grow muscle without challenging it with greater weight. You can’t build emotional resilience without forging through hardship and loss. And you can’t build a better mind without challenging your own beliefs and assumptions." - Mark Manson
Until next time Insha'Allah – Cya
Zuhur Yasin :)