Life and its lessons (27)
Life and its lessons (27)
The Wait;
It’s hard to control our urge to respond and act immediately, not only respond but to strongly defend our responds. One thing that brought increasing peace into my life is the idea I call “The Wait”. I am learning to choose to wait – not react and respond automatically or to respond at all. Most times the time that passes after “The Wait” reveals much. New information will show that the judgment I had earlier was wrong or biased, even in the face of lie being told to me, “the wait” gives me strategies on how to manage, it helped me to reflect on living a life free from bondage– the constant daily struggle of external expectations, acceptance, time, endorsement and applauds. My lesson; situations and people are filled with flaws and especially for a person who is lean towards feelings and emotions I need to have a constant reminder, a space “the wait” to reflect and ponder to minimize how the flaws in others and myself can have the least effect on my calmness, moods and decisions.
Everything nice;
Being nice, in love, giving, etc have become so much of an argument that people have lost in its belief of existence or their practical realities. People have experienced, felt, heard and seen abuse, torture, manipulation and atmost disrespect plastered packaged in the name of love and caring, no wonder the realities we see today. The film industry and media has made this worst showing that torture and hurt is what love and caring could be. Being good and loving is wanting to give more than you have, its being happy for others happiness, love and caring is wanting to improve, change and grow positivity for another person or group. My lesson, the world is turning us into persons that want to define and deny the beauties of life. Even through the storms of narcissism, cruelty, and blatant individualism let’s try to work on building, being and promoting the love and care we want in our world and homes.
Note to self;
Live a full life; filled with memories and experiences. You alone are responsible for your life’s choices. Continue to detach from seeking happiness from the exterior.
Inspiration;
This posts inspiration come from a Chinese parable/story of a farmer “Maybe so, Maybe not. We’ll see.” Reflect on it in your own way ----- A farmer and his son had a beloved stallion/horse who helped the family earn a living. One day, the horse ran away, and their neighbors exclaimed, “Your horse ran away, what terrible luck!” The farmer replied, “Maybe so, maybe not. We’ll see.” A few days later, the horse returned home, leading a few wild mares back to the farm as well. The neighbors shouted out, “Your horse has returned, and brought several horses home with him. What great luck!” The farmer replied, “Maybe so, maybe not. We’ll see.” Later that week, the farmer’s son was trying to break one of the mares and she threw him to the ground, breaking his leg. The villagers cried, “Your son broke his leg, what terrible luck!” The farmer replied, “Maybe so, maybe not. We’ll see. ”A few weeks later, soldiers from the national army marched through town, recruiting all the able-bodied boys for the army. They did not take the farmer’s son, still recovering from his injury. Friends shouted, “Your boy is spared, what tremendous luck!” To which the farmer replied, “Maybe so, maybe not. We’ll see.”
Until next time Insha’Allah – Cya
Zuhur Yasin :)